Boundaries: The Most loving thing we can do (Even when its hard)
“Daring to set boundaries is about having the courage to love ourselves, even when we risk disappointing others.” - Brené Brown
Boundaries: The Most Loving Thing You Can Do (Even When It’s Hard)
Let’s talk about something that often gets misunderstood—boundaries. Not walls. Not ultimatums. Not punishment.
True boundaries are acts of self-respect. They are the invisible lines that protect your time, energy, emotions, and wellbeing. They tell the world:
“This is where I begin and where I end. This is how I honour myself.”
So what are boundaries, really? At their core, boundaries are choices. Choices to protect what matters. Choices to say “yes” and “no” with clarity. Choices to stop abandoning yourself to make others comfortable.
Healthy boundaries are how we teach people how to treat us. And more importantly—they’re how we teach ourselves what we deserve.
Why do we need them? Without boundaries:
We overextend and end up depleted
We say “yes” when we mean “no,” leading to resentment
We tolerate behavior that hurts us because we’re afraid of being “too much”
We lose ourselves in other people’s expectations, roles, or needs
And over time, this can cost us deeply—our peace, our joy, our identity, and sometimes even our health.
Boundaries aren’t selfish. They’re sacred. They are how we stay in relationship with others without losing relationship to ourselves.
And here’s the truth: If setting boundaries feels hard...It’s probably because somewhere in your past, you were taught it wasn’t safe to have needs.
You’re not broken. You’re conditioned. And the beautiful thing? That conditioning can be unlearned.
If you’re feeling stretched thin, silenced, or unsure of where “you” went in the mix of life, I want you to know: You don’t have to untangle this alone.
Boundaries aren’t just a list of rules. They’re a practice. A process. A healing journey. And I’d be honoured to walk it with you.
If this message speaks to something stirring inside you, I invite you to book a session.
Sometimes, the most loving thing we can do is say “yes” to ourselves.
